Groom Speech – Where Do I Start?
One of the things I remember most about getting my groom speech done, was the trouble I had just trying to figure out where to start. I just couldn’t for the life of me, find the ideas or inspiration to start writing my speech.
I think one of the biggest hurdles I faced, was coming to terms with the actual structure of a wedding speech. And I’m sure, like most guys, I had no idea whatsoever about the correct etiquette I was meant to follow, or how speeches for weddings are supposed to go.
I was so tied up with trying to create my speech so that it followed the proper sequence, that I was struggling to find the initial thoughts, feelings and words to even begin. If you are experiencing the same troubles and hurdles in writing your groom’s wedding speech, then hopefully the tips in this article will be able to help you get over the initial hurdles, and help you get off to a great start.
Firstly, in my experience, it’s far better to forget about HOW you are meant to write your speech. At this early stage, the actual structure of your speech isn’t important. What is important, is that you get your thoughts, feelings and ideas down on paper.
I’ve already written in a previous article, about certain things to think about to help you get started. For those of you who haven’t read it yet, think about memories, experiences and events you and your bride have shared together. These can be really helpful in triggering ideas and thoughts, and getting a start to your speech writing.
Also, think about the different people that you have to thank, and for the different reasons. There are going to be a few people on that list, so this can really start to catapult your ideas and help you get more info for your speech.
Think about funny stories or experiences that you can share. Having a funny story about your best-man always go down a treat, and you can always add other stories that revolve around other friends or relatives as well.
Interjecting the RIGHT kind of lighthearted humor into your speech to compliment the serious things that you need to say, is a great way to give an entertaining and memorable groom speech. Remember it DOES have to be tasteful and respectful though. This is NOT the place to be telling all your locker room jokes, or mother-in-law jokes.
There are some good resources available that have some great wedding speech jokes and anecdotes. I recommend you check them out if you are unsure about the type of content that is suitable to include in your speech.
Brainstorm whenever you can. I used to brainstorm at the funniest of times when I was creating my speech. I would use my coffee breaks sometimes to come up with speech ideas. But any spare time you get is a great time to spend on coming up with ideas and putting them down on paper.
Which brings us to my last point; WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING!
Don’t make the same mistake I did, and fail to write everything down, thinking that you will remember later on. Trust me, it’s NOT a good idea. I thought I would be able to remember my inspirational thoughts and feelings once I had the time to put them on paper, only to find my mind had gone blank.
In my experience, you’re far better off just writing your thoughts down straight away. That way you know for sure that you have your words on paper, and even if you choose not to use them in your speech, at least you won’t be racking your brain like I did, trying to remember what you had thought of earlier.
Well I hope this article can give you some ideas to get you started. I know that creating your wedding speech isn’t the easiest thing to do. I hope my experience and advice can save you some time, energy and stress.
For more detailed help, along with a huge array of groom speech templates, examples and ideas, as well as a complete, step by step how-to guide on creating and delivering a memorable wedding speech, I highly recommend you check out this great Groom Speech Guide.
Best of luck with your Groom Speech preparations.